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PTSD Survivors: Why is validation so important for healing?

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Throughout my years in therapy, validation was comparable to receiving a gift, at times triggering tears of sadness, yet happiness and contentment at the same time.   Finally, someone was not ignoring me, was respecting my feelings and best of all, no interruptions with cruel words.  As a daughter of a narcissistic mother, very rarely showing any validation, empathy and usually telling me “you’re making things up again.”, this was all new to me.

Validation means to express understanding and acceptance of another person’s internal experience, whatever that might be. Validation does not mean you agree or approve. Validation builds relationships and helps ease upset feelings. Knowing that you are understood and that your emotions and thoughts are accepted by others is powerful. Validation is like relationship glue. – psychologytoday.com

This article from PsychCentral.com explains ‘Validation’.

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How to be your own parent

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If healing were a linear narrative (which it most certainly isn’t), my most recent realizations would be significant enough to indicate a new milestone.

What I mean, is that my curiosity about why I am the way I am as an adult has led me to the concept of emotional neglect. If you want to familiarize yourself with this concept, I would recommend checking out the work of psychologist Dr Jonice Webb. I found her through a great episode of the podcast “Mental Illness Happy Hour” which can be found here.

Essentially though, the idea is that sometimes the most harm comes not from abuse that is inflicted upon an individual, but instead what is withheld from them. It’s often really hard to recognize after the fact because there isn’t a specific incident or experience to remember, instead it’s the absence of an experience that becomes harmful.

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Why People are Scared of Self-Publishing

Charlotte Anne Barker

It’s sadly true that some people are just plain scared of self-publishing. I mean really when you think about it, who to best sell your book than… well… you?

Although self-publishing has been on the rise for the past few years, titles and genres have been blurred so much that sometimes it can be hard to look or even, be original. With this I’m referring to ebooks; when you scroll down amazon or the book store on iTunes, you begin to notice how similar all of the books look. After scrolling to page 16, well, I don’t know about you but I sometimes feel like the first page is just repeating itself. It’s because of this that it can seem daunting to self-publish.

I mean lets face it, the person that knows your novel the best is you right? So why is it that many of us want agents or…

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An Invisible Epidemic

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By: Damita Glaude

Emotional abuse can manifest itself in any type of relationship from familial to romantic. There is a severe lack of statistical information, both locally in the Atlanta area and worldwide, on emotional abuse and a great deal of shame that comes with acknowledging you have been hurt, not physically, but mentally. Understanding what emotional abuse is and the psychological impact this type of abuse has, can lead to a greater awareness.

KENNESAW, Ga. — Amy Bear has been running her private emotional abuse counseling practice since 2009 and says that abuse is an epidemic. “I think there are a lot of people out there who are psychologically damaged and have a profound sense of insecurity and when someone is emotionally abused there is a possibility of them perpetuating that abuse in other relationships,” said Bear. Bear is one of the only therapists in the Atlanta area that…

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