Among those who write about abuse, many are quick to label those who have experienced abuse as “survivors.” The term is meant to be empowering, reminding people of how far they have co…
The scapegoat – typically the child often described as imitating, deceitful, hostile and disobedient.
There are families that always focus on a specific child, claiming that he / she is the root of all problems in family.
Do you recognize one in your circle of friends? Or sadly you actually one of these scapegoat? What’s your opinion?
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Many of us who have been wounded in childhood may have been told by others we won’t find any true peace until we forgive. Most particularly if we are involved in church circles or other religious or spiritual communities forgiveness may be promoted as the ideal to aspire to. But the truth is a forgiveness that is assumed or forced before we have really worked through, felt and owned all the complex feelings we have experienced about what happened to us, may come at too a high price.
This kind of forgiveness may be premature and may lead us to make excuses for others who really aren’t showing the necessary contrition. It may keep us in denial or stalemated at the level of pure intellectual insight alone and it may keep us open to further abuse. If it comes at the cost of denial or minimisation of the depth of pain…
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For many survivors of narcissistic abuse, recovery is a slow, frustrating and tedious process. The frequent complaints of pain and emotional distress are often dismissed by loved ones and even mental health professionals as malingering and a lack of desire to heal and get better. However, recent trauma research indicates that these complaints are the direct result of the real physiological damage done to survivors while they were exposed to the prolonged emotional and psychological trauma of an abusive relationship.
Trauma, which is the Greek word for “wound,” is often the result of an overwhelming amount of stress that exceeds one’s ability to cope or integrate the emotions invoked with that experience– Wikipedia. Long term exposure to the chronic emotional and psychological trauma of narcissistic abuse predisposes the brain to be in a constant state of “flight or flight” or hyper alert due to the repeated elevation of the stress hormones, adrenaline and cortisol. The constant surge of cortisol not only causes many…
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This is me at 17 years of age
I can’t tell you how much the response meant to me after I posted Til it Happens to you. The support was incredible! I was too overcome to respond for a while. People have asked how I got through it all. I suffered status epilepticus at 13, meaning I had continual seizures which couldn’t be controlled. I stopped breathing and was in a coma. It took a long time to recover from this event (it was predicted I wouldn’t). The next year, I met a monster, and was abused. The finale was being thrown off a building at fifteen. My healing has taken over twenty years. There are some things that have helped.
1. I can’t handle violence of any kind. I can’t discuss literature, nor movies, let alone view them, if they are violent. At first, I didn’t want people to…
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Sometimes you wish for something so hard and then it actually comes true. Has that happened to you? Against countless odds and still, your wish actually came true. Does it count as being lucky or should you be careful about hitching your hopes up too high? I’ve been thinking these thoughts for a while now. I’ve been thinking so much about it and I’ve also been trying not to think at all.
So much has happened since the last time I was here, blogger friends. So. Much. Where do I start from and how do I explain any of this? I am not sure. But I want to take it one step at a time. Keep my emotions in check. Make sure I’m not borrowing more happiness than I deserve to have in my share.
I can’t write like I used to. I’m putting that out there so you can…
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