Back in 2015 Brandon O’Neill wrote a blog for The Spectator chronicling the case of pianist James Rhodes and his victory in court overturning a legal injunction which was preventing him from publishing his child abuse memoir. It is a particularly harrowing account of sexual abuse which leaves little to the imagination.
Not only does O’Neill negate Rhodes’ ‘pornographic detail of abuse’ as he so eloquently puts it but he further goes on to question why we need ‘misery memoirs’ in the first place. The purpose of his article is to beg the question ‘Why can’t the past stay private?’ Writing for the Telegraph back in 2008, Sam Leith again highlighted why we have a need for this kind of memoir with the attention grabbing headline ‘Misery memoirs make pornography of personal pain.
In 2006, 11 of the top 100 best selling English paperbacks were ‘mis lit’ as its so…
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Such a powerful and terrifying word.
Entirely elusive in its very nature…and yet completely attainable. While it is reserved for the strong, there are no restrictions on anyone becoming strong enough to reach it. At the same time, you must find the strength to find the strength…
So here I am left on this undeniably painful path to recovery. Recovery from the past, the present and simply…recovery from life, which has left me questioning why (or how) some are able to find themselves “healed” while others are simply moving through this world in a state of pure survival rather than living.
This questioning has also left me on a path of discovery. If I can find the answer to the why (or how) then I can find my way to that all too sought after feeling of being healed. That all too sought after peace.
In light of everything…
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Dysfunctional Families – it’s hard to see what’s going on
when you’re inside one.
Victims have difficulties to identify dysfunctional system because this is what they see, hear and learn over years.
Thought this is what “normal” families do.
Photo credit : Pixabay – MemoryCatcher
Strength shows not only in the ability to persist, but to start over.
Probably many people heard of “5 stages of grief” after the loss of loved-ones or divorce etc. According to my personal experience, abused survivors also going through similar healing / grieving process. It’s not necessary have specific order or time limit for each stage as it depends on individuals’ perception / experiences : some may stuck at certain stage much longer than other stages; jump around or wandering back and forth.
Human born to have coping mechanism to protect ourselves and eliminate pains / hurts while handling disasters/trauma. But this habit may sometimes obstruct our objective thinking. For example, when we are confronted by difficult situation we tend to deny the facts.
It’s common to find wives who deny all evidences indicated from their husband’s affairs, they reject to accept the truth that the so-called good marriage…
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