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On the thorny subject of forgiveness

Emerging From The Dark Night

Many of us who have been wounded in childhood may have been told by others we won’t find any true peace until we forgive.  Most particularly if we are involved in church circles or other religious or spiritual communities forgiveness may be promoted as the ideal to aspire to.  But the truth is a forgiveness that is assumed or forced before we have really worked through, felt and owned all the complex feelings we have experienced about what happened to us, may come at too a high price.

This kind of forgiveness may be premature and may lead us to make excuses for others who really aren’t showing the necessary contrition.  It may keep us in denial or stalemated at the level of pure intellectual insight alone and it may keep us open to further abuse.  If it comes at the cost of denial or minimisation of the depth of pain…

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TRIGGERS: The Buttons to Our Souls

The Abuse Expose' with Secret Angel

As we begin another week of October’s Domestic Violence Awareness Month, I want to talk about triggers and our unplanned, spontaneous responses to things that we encounter. We are all human and composed of a body, soul, and spirit. And just as our body gets used and abused, our soul suffers the effects of these abuses. They carry the emotions which have been wounded by the words and deeds of others. And all of these emotions have triggers or buttons that get pushed which stimulate the various responses that we have to various stimuli in our lives.

Triggers…
the buttons to our souls…
where emotions are stimulated…
and their responses we behold.
For the wounds of our pasts…
hold various emotions within.
But when triggers are pushed…
spontaneous responses begin.

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