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#BookReview – P.S. I Forgive You – A Broken Legacy by D.G. Kaye #Memoir #Narcissism

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On the eve of my father’s funeral, I find myself writing my review of this memoir with a real sense of gratitude that I was lucky enough to have loving parents, and little dysfunctionality in my family. My father was raised in a rather Victorian household, (he was born in 1915), where children were seen but not heard, which made him always a quiet man, but no less loving for it, though he rarely expressed emotion.

Tomorrow I shall say goodbye to him in the knowledge that he lived a long and satisfied life, leaving no regrets at the end on any of our parts, unlike my poor friend Debby Gies (author D.G. Kaye), who suffered a traumatic childhood.

Thanks, Debby. Whilst I sorrow for your travails, you’ve gifted me with a great contrast to recognise at this sad time how fortunate I have been.

P.S. I Forgive You: A Broken LegacyP.S. I Forgive You: A Broken Legacy by D.G…

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Author Interview and Promo with Lynette Davis: Even Rain Is Just Water

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I have known Lynette for about two years now. Though it’s hard to pinpoint any exact moments in the blogosphere, I believe we met when she commented on my blog post, Why Memoirs are Special. From there we have gone on to follow each other’s blogs, email lists, social media, and she even bought one of my paperbacks.

Today, I am honored to help to promote her memoir, Even Rain is Just Water. Eck!

OK. I am calm. But, you all know that I would like to write a memoir one day. It is my honor to witness how it is done from those who’ve been where I am trying to go. Lynette’s book released in ebook on May 30, 2017. Today, she is releasing the paperback!

I love paperbacks!

AND I’ve  already read the book. Yup. I beat you.

Before getting into the book, let’s learn more about…

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News Flash: Changes Coming

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The Broken Vessel is moving. As many of you know, The Broken Vessel is a category on this blog that features posts about emotional abuse and the effects of emotional abuse, especially on ACoNs (adult children of narcissists) that I’ve used to raise awareness about emotional abuse.  However, this is a writing blog and The Broken Vessel has outgrown is space on my this blog. So, I’m moving it to my website which is still under construction until April 1st. However, you’re welcome to take a peek. You can find my website at LynetteDavisAuthor.wordpress.com. If you do take a peek, please let me know what you think.

In it’s new home, The Broken Vessel will be much broader, and will feature weekly posts about narcissism, emotional abuse, emotional child abuse, PTSD, complex PTSD and dysfunctional family relationships, in addition to inspirational posts, uplifting quotes, as well as my thoughts and reflections on books on the subject of narcissism, and its affect on ACoNs (adult children of narcissists).

Also, for those of you who have been asking, pre-orders for my debut memoir–Even Rain Is Just Water will available April 1st. For every book that is sold during the month of April (Child Abuse Prevention Month), $1 will be donated to Kids Central Inc. This child welfare agency, located in Central Florida, develops and manages a comprehensive community-based system of care for abused, neglected and abandoned children and their families. You can visit them at kidscentralinc.org.

 

 

 

Your Narcissistic Mother has been Elected President

It’s as if your narcissistic mother has been elected president. Your version of reality is wrong. History’s version of reality is wrong. Science’s version of reality is wrong. Facts are infuriating…

Source: Your Narcissistic Mother has been Elected President: Resist with Joy

Understanding and Healing the Scapegoat Within

Emerging From The Dark Night

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The family scapegoat receives the shadow projections of the family. They are the one that carries and tries to express qualities, needs, reactions and expressions which may not have had a chance or live in the family.  Often if we review the family history we will be able to see a pattern or something the scapegoat is trying to live for the family that could not be expressed, or struggled to be expressed over generations.

There is also collective element to the scapegoat which means certain qualities in any particular culture are accepted and are seen as valuable to express where as others may be demonised. Religious beliefs create the scapegoat by dictating what is “holy” and what is “demonic” and so create splits. The pervasive spread of the Catholic zeitgeist, for example, reveres qualities of self sacrifice, meekness, chastity and in many ways a repression of essential elements of…

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Quote of the day # 31 : Dysfunctional Family Role

Rebellious Scapegoat

The scapegoat – typically the child often described as imitating, deceitful, hostile and disobedient.

There are families that always focus on a specific child, claiming that he / she is the root of all problems in family.

Do you recognize one in your circle of friends? Or sadly you actually one of these scapegoat?  What’s your opinion?

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Enmeshment – Separating Ourselves from the Narcissist

After Narcissistic Abuse

What Was Meant for Evil, God Uses for Good.

This post isn’t to glorify or laud the narcissist that intended to harm us with praise for helping us change. Not at all, in fact, this post is a testament to the power of the human spirit lit on fire, determined to heal itself and move past a traumatic encounter with a person who’s sinister character FORCED us to change.

Enmeshment is different than two people being very close. Close relationships are a wonderful part of life and often allow for appropriate independence within the relationship. Enmeshment, however, becomes a problem because the individual involved loses their own identity.  Narcissists prevent the autonomy we need in order to grow emotionally and individually.

These days, I am very much separated from the narcissist that abused me. I’ve gone on to forgive them and separated their character and actions from my life and core…

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Scapegoat

Special thanks to Linda Lee for re-blogging this post on her site. It has been on my mind every day, since I read it two weeks ago. Particularly, how we, as children, were scapegoated that is “deemed bad [and] punished merely for existing.”

 

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The following article on the phenomenon of the scapegoat child was written by Leigh Byrne, author of two best-selling memoirs: Call Me Tuesday and Call Me Cockroach. This post was originally published on Leigh’s blogger website, Sometimes On Tuesday. I am reposting it here, in its entirety, with the author’s permission.

SCAPEGOAT by author Leigh Byrne

While being the victim of a parent’s fury is bad enough, being the only child in a family singled out to receive it is many, many times worse.

There came a point during the writing of Call Me Tuesday, when I felt the need to somehow impart meaning and purpose to what had happened to me as a child, to make my story, at least in my mind, something more than a pointless reflection of human suffering.

I spent hours on the Internet combing through newspaper articles about abused…

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It’s all about image: the skewed values of narcissistic families

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Last night I read a blog post by another survivor of narcissistic parents , and was astounded by how similar her parents’ values were to mine.

She writes that her father criticized her for being too idealistic. Now that would normally be a compliment, but because her family valued nothing but money, class and image, it was meant to be an insult. My father (who I don’t think is a narcissist, but has always been a huge narcissist apologist and enabler), said exactly the same thing to me.

We live in a narcissistic and materialistic society, that increasingly values traits that are narcissistic and exalt the individual over the community. In fact, studies have shown that a high percentage of CEOs, top executives, Wall Street tycoons, and others of the “One Percent” have narcissistic personality disorder. It’s a disorder that is very adaptive in modern society and whose traits are…

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