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Honor Thy Narcissistic Mother: the 4th Commandment and Going “No Contact”

A Word, Please. . .

Two weeks ago as I was crawling into bed, my phone pinged with a text from a childhood friend, Serina.  Little emoji party horns were all over it, with an invitation.  Her father was turning 90. Would my family celebrate with them?  Her family was the only family we knew when I was growing up, the weekend in the cabin family, the camping family, the chicken curry family (her dad is Pakistani), the family that came over for Thanksgiving dinner. There was one problem:  my mother would be there.

In May, I decided to go “No Contact” with my narcissistic mother. It was after my housewarming party, where she ignored me except to insult me, and later when I confronted her, gaslightedme.  Her snide comment that day had not been the apex of her cruelty. The most cruel? Years ago when I told her I was finally pregnant with a long awaited  3rd child…

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PTSD - Accepting, Coping, Thriving

This one is tricky.  Hard to pin down since emotions are so volatile and changing with a thought.  How secure you are within yourself makes it harder for someone to abuse you emotionally.  This link is one of those annoying ones that you have to click after every paragraph but the signs are important to be aware of to spot those that use emotion to manipulate others.  http://www.beliefnet.com/wellness/galleries/9-signs-you-are-in-an-emotionally-abusive-relationship.aspx?

  1. You feel like you are on emotional roller coaster.  Another description is you feel like you are walking on egg shells, terrified of the next flair up.
  2. They isolate you.  They don’t want you having contact with friends or family.  This may seem very romantic at first that they want you all to themselves but no one can be your everything.  Family and friendships need to be maintained.  They need other friends too.
  3. Jealousy….not just of other people but your dreams and…

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