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News Flash: Changes Coming

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The Broken Vessel is moving. As many of you know, The Broken Vessel is a category on this blog that features posts about emotional abuse and the effects of emotional abuse, especially on ACoNs (adult children of narcissists) that I’ve used to raise awareness about emotional abuse.  However, this is a writing blog and The Broken Vessel has outgrown is space on my this blog. So, I’m moving it to my website which is still under construction until April 1st. However, you’re welcome to take a peek. You can find my website at LynetteDavisAuthor.wordpress.com. If you do take a peek, please let me know what you think.

In it’s new home, The Broken Vessel will be much broader, and will feature weekly posts about narcissism, emotional abuse, emotional child abuse, PTSD, complex PTSD and dysfunctional family relationships, in addition to inspirational posts, uplifting quotes, as well as my thoughts and reflections on books on the subject of narcissism, and its affect on ACoNs (adult children of narcissists).

Also, for those of you who have been asking, pre-orders for my debut memoir–Even Rain Is Just Water will available April 1st. For every book that is sold during the month of April (Child Abuse Prevention Month), $1 will be donated to Kids Central Inc. This child welfare agency, located in Central Florida, develops and manages a comprehensive community-based system of care for abused, neglected and abandoned children and their families. You can visit them at kidscentralinc.org.

 

 

 

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Emotionally Neglected Children May Feel Like They Are Ghosts

The Invisible Scar

[photo credit: flickr user Andrea Much][photo credit: flickr user Andrea Much]

“Emotional Neglect is the white space in the family picture; the background rather than the foreground. It is insidious and overlooked while it does its silent damage to people’s lives.” (Dr. Jonice Webb)

Editor’s note: I use “he” because “he or she” can interrupt the flow of sentences. But abuse can happen to any gender.

An emotionally abused child may sometimes feel like a ghost in his own home. He passes through its corridors, affects its surroundings, interacts (as best as he can) with the other people in the house… but he feels like no one quite sees him.

Or listens to him.

Or understands him.

Or cares for him.

Or loves him.

People outside the house can see this child. And from the outside, these neighbors, family friends, relatives, and teachers may see this gleaming, shiny family, paragons of the community, and believe…

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It’s not the load that breaks us down–heaven knows if we could see it all at once we might just shift our hips and find a better way to carry it–no, it’s the shrapnel of lif…

Source: Healing from Hidden Abuse Book Review

22 things loving families don’t do.

Lucky Otters Haven

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  1. They don’t favor one child over another.
  2. They don’t give their children “mixed” or conflicting messages.
  3. They don’t teach their children that only material things or financial success have value and denigrate qualities like compassion, empathy, and love as “weaknesses.”
  4. They don’t disinherit their own children.  If an adult child is irresponsible with finances, they set up a trust or distribute it as income or through someone else who is trustworthy.  But they don’t disown.  That’s nothing but a slap in the face.
  5. They don’t reward a child and then punish them for the same thing later.
  6. They don’t threaten a child with “reform school,” being given up for adoption, etc.
  7. They don’t squelch, punish or discourage the honest expression of emotion, even if it’s negative.
  8. They don’t belittle a child’s talents or accomplishments
  9. They don’t tell their child they are “perfect,” especially for things they didn’t have to work…

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10 Huge Misconceptions About Emotional Child Abuse

The Invisible Scar

[via Neal Sanche] [via Neal Sanche] “How could you have been abused?” a grossly misinformed person in an adult survivor’s life may say. “You had a roof over your head, food in your belly, clothes, and no one ever hit you!”

But as every adult survivor of emotional child abuse knows, the essentials—good attention, unconditional love, and emotional support—were missing.

Unfortunately, however, many misconceptions about emotional child abuse abound. Here’s a look at some of the biggest ones.

Misconception #1: Emotional abuse is another word for verbal abuse

Fact:Emotional abuse includes verbal abuse, non-verbal abuse, and non-physical forms of abuse.

“Child abuse is more than bruises or broken bones,” state Melinda Smith, M.D., and Jeanne Segal, Ph.D, in a HelpGuide article. “While physical abuse is shocking due to the scars it leaves, not all child abuse is as obvious. Ignoring children’s needs, putting them in unsupervised, dangerous situations, or making…

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