Category Archives: The Broken Vessel

3 Reasons To Support My #InvisibleScars Emotional Abuse Awareness Campaign

Allow me to introduce myself to some and re-introduce myself to others. My name is Lynette Davis and I’m the author of Even Rain Is Just Water, A Memoir of Rejection, Revelation & Redemption. My memoir is about a lonely little girl looking for love and acceptance that shows how childhood trauma transcends into adulthood and continues to affect survivors.

We’re ten days into a 30-day social campaign called #InvisibleScars, which is approximately one-third of the way.  It’s a campaign to raise awareness about emotional abuse. It began on September 7th and ends on October 7th. This is a matter that is close to me because in my subtitle, the word rejection is i.e. for emotional abuse. One of my commitments upon publishing my story is to help bring more awareness to this insidious type of abuse.

Three reasons to support this campaign:

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First, it’s for a very good cause. By supporting this campaign, you will be helping to raise awareness so that more people can be helped. This type of abuse also produces trauma. Emotional abuse is insidious, that is, it’s gradual and done over and over, over a period of time, and therefore is not easily noticed. It’s so insidious that most people who experience emotional abuse don’t even know they are being emotionally abused. That certainly was true, in my case as well. I did not realize it was abuse until one of my beta readers, upon reading my first draft, responded about the “abuse” I had experienced. “Abuse? What abuse?”

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Secondly, Simply by supporting the #InvisibleScars campaign, you can be the voice on October 7th for countless voiceless victims who have been silenced and feel powerless and defeated due to their chronic or long-term exposure to emotional abuse, for which they have no escape. (On October 7th, we’re going to make one loud thunderous clap so their voices, along with ours, can be heard.) And

 

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Thirdly, It won’t cost you one red cent. That’s right. It doesn’t cost you anything to support this campaign, other than five seconds of your time. And, it’s safe and secure. You’re only giving Thunderclap permission to tweet (Twitter) or post (Facebook or Tumbler) one time, at a designated time. That is all.

Please support this campaign by clicking on:

  • this link:  #InvisibleScars
  • one of the red bars labeled “Twitter,” “Facebook,” or “Tumbler”  

That’s it. You don’t have to do anything else. And on October 7th, we’ll “put emotional abuse on blast!”

Much gratitude to the individuals who have already supported this campaign.

Lynette

 

 

 

 

 

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Child Abuse Prevention Month!

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Welp, April is here. It’s apparently Child Abuse Prevention Month.

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Honestly, I’m not sure what really happens during these months where things like this are brought up a lot, but it could be just an awareness thing. Although most people going about their every day hustle and bustle probably don’t even give a damn even if it happened to them during their childhood, they still don’t have time to give these things any attention at all.

15965950_166577707159339_7425675592505052570_nWhat can we do to prevent child abuse? I really don’t know. The things I wish could happen aren’t going to actually happen, like the penalty for abusers as far as jail time be increased or better yet, fuck the jail time. How about bringing back the death penalty?

How about we do it the way some countries probably still do things? If you steal something, you’re likely to get your fucking hand

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News Flash: Changes Coming

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The Broken Vessel is moving. As many of you know, The Broken Vessel is a category on this blog that features posts about emotional abuse and the effects of emotional abuse, especially on ACoNs (adult children of narcissists) that I’ve used to raise awareness about emotional abuse.  However, this is a writing blog and The Broken Vessel has outgrown is space on my this blog. So, I’m moving it to my website which is still under construction until April 1st. However, you’re welcome to take a peek. You can find my website at LynetteDavisAuthor.wordpress.com. If you do take a peek, please let me know what you think.

In it’s new home, The Broken Vessel will be much broader, and will feature weekly posts about narcissism, emotional abuse, emotional child abuse, PTSD, complex PTSD and dysfunctional family relationships, in addition to inspirational posts, uplifting quotes, as well as my thoughts and reflections on books on the subject of narcissism, and its affect on ACoNs (adult children of narcissists).

Also, for those of you who have been asking, pre-orders for my debut memoir–Even Rain Is Just Water will available April 1st. For every book that is sold during the month of April (Child Abuse Prevention Month), $1 will be donated to Kids Central Inc. This child welfare agency, located in Central Florida, develops and manages a comprehensive community-based system of care for abused, neglected and abandoned children and their families. You can visit them at kidscentralinc.org.

 

 

 

Whatever is in your heart, becomes your words…

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How does the saying ‘sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me’ make you feel?

I was about five, reporting being bullied, when I first heard it.

Two adults who should have known better were the ones who said them.

One was a teacher, the first in a long line who went on to say ‘just keep away from the bullies and they’ll keep away from you’ and went off to have tea in the staff-room. Obviously, that’s exactly what bullies do, isn’t it? They would never think of pursuing you. Of course not. What she meant (I hope) was ‘don’t show them that they are getting to you.’ What I heard was ‘don’t bother me with your problems. I don’t care about you.’

The other was an adult family member, who followed it up with ‘you just have to put up with it, it…

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The First Cocoon Layer: Silence

Living Outside The Cocoon

I used to think that the cocoon that surrounds a caterpillar to protect it while it transforms, was just a single hard shell. In fact, a cocoon is made up of many layers.

Learning this was important to me because like a cocoon, over time, I too would “cocoon” myself. Each layer I meant to protect me until I could also transform. The only problem, and its an important one, unlike the caterpillar, I didn’t know when to stop adding layers.

Layers of hurt, layers of denial, layers of anger. Anything that came from abuse, I could create a layer in my cocoon to defend myself from it.

The first layer, silence, is the one I want to talk about here. Probably because it is the first layer I made and, I believe, it is the first layer that most abused people create for their cocoons.

Silence is a powerful…

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​Shadows on the Wall: Binge Eating Disorder & Early Childhood Trauma

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I gripped the neck of the green Coca-Cola bottle hidden beneath the folds of my ragged skirt. Not much protection, but all I had. The five of us Dulin Kids sat like statues on the worn brown sofa and stared at the butcher knife Dad held at Mom’s throat…

Emotional and physical trauma, such as depicted in the above scene from my childhood, is one of many factors that can contribute to the development of binge eating disorder (BED). Childhood trauma, especially when it occurs before the age of nine or ten, is an especially strong force that often drives us toward binge eating. How this plays out is fascinating.

Learning to Self-soothe in a Safe Home

Self-soothing is one of the earliest and most important coping skills we learn as children.
In a safe home, young children learn to soothe themselves by being comforted and soothed by their parents…

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Your Narcissistic Mother has been Elected President

It’s as if your narcissistic mother has been elected president. Your version of reality is wrong. History’s version of reality is wrong. Science’s version of reality is wrong. Facts are infuriating…

Source: Your Narcissistic Mother has been Elected President: Resist with Joy