Don’t Be Too Quick To Label “Survivors”

Among those who write about abuse, many are quick to label those who have experienced abuse as “survivors.”  The term is meant to be empowering, reminding people of how far they have co…

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  1. My understanding of the term “survivor” is that it simply refers to someone who has gone through an ordeal and still has a pulse. It does not imply “triumph over adversity.” It does not mean we are “over it.” It simply means that we lived through it. It doesn’t mean we came out intact.

    It doesn’t mean we’re not horribly wounded, or that we’re now OK in any way. It does not imply success.

    To me the difference between being a survivor and being a victim is that I’m still alive. And for the many survivors I’ve worked with, that’s all it means.

    I’m sorry this author feels somehow shamed. I know there’s a lot of misplaced ego out there in the “survivor” crowd. That’s one reason I bowed out of social media: pettiness, subtle and not so subtle bullying. I’ve even had my WordPress blogs utilized by pro-prostitution activists who wanted to slam me for writing about surviving teenage sex trafficking!

    It’s hard–especially when someone has recently realized that their family of origin has been abusing them all their lives– not to let the bastards grind you down. I find the simple fact that I haven’t yet offed myself ample proof of my survival.

  2. “My understanding of the term ‘survivor’ is that it simply refers to someone who has gone through an ordeal and still has a pulse.” I agree with you here. The word “survivor” means we survived, nothing more and nothing less. Like a soldier that comes back from war. He survived but he’s not okay. Wounded and suffering from PTSD, he struggles daily. But he did make it back, unlike many of his comrades. I’m grateful that I made it. Not everyone does.

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