Preparing to Write Your Story | Ruth, Writer

Ruth, Writer


“I don’t know where the idea originated that memoir writing is cathartic. For me, it’s always felt like playing my own neurosurgeon, sans anesthesia. As a memoirist, you have to crack your head open and examine every uncomfortable thing in there.”

Koren Zailckas

Having already wrestled through the arduous process of writing a memoir, I can’t say I’m particularly looking forward to working on my next one.

There is a massive amount of research that goes into it, as anyone who has written a book – much less a nonfictional book – can confirm: checking dates, reading reports, studying newspaper clippings, thumbing through old journals, watching muffled, fuzzy videos. The messy, ugly first drafts. The tears. The struggle to write. The bafflement. The doubt – am I equipped to do this? Who is going to want to read this anyway? What am I trying to say with this? Was I…

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  1. The Emerging Lotus

    Hi! I finally published my book “Ingrid I’m with You!” It’s on, Amazon, Barnes, iTunes etc. it’s on Gaslighting. I would love to hear your feedback! I was v taken back by your comment on Spiritual warefare, it’s in the synopsis. My story isn’t over yet, pending Trial this Weds, please keep me in your prayers and stay in touch! PS: sorry but I didn’t know how to leave you I private message.. Hope all is well and thank you for following me!

    1. Congratulations! I just read the blurb for your new book and you nailed it. Why we’re just beginning to talk about this is probably due to the fact that we didn’t know what we were dealing with or how insidious the nature of narcissism is, since the narcissist’s actions are only visible to their victims, not to mention the fact that the narcissists is constantly gaslighting their victims, trying to make them think they’re crazy. I can’t wait to read your book!

      1. The Emerging Lotus

        From what I’ve learned from psychoeducation and experience is that a narcissist’s biggest fear is being exposed- they hate their victims and go out of their way to make them feel as if they are crazy because they know “their secret,” and they project their emotions into their victims. My original title for the book was “The Dorian Gray’s who Walk Among Us,” and I refer to them as Dorian Gray’s, because that’s exactly what they are. They wear these masks SO WELL and fool us all. My sincere wish is to hear from the other victims, raise awareness and rip off those masks. We are starting to talk about Gaslighting, but from a clinical perspective. I use my experience and also incorporate psychoeducation. I can’t wait to hear what you think about it. Once it’s perfected, I will go into print. Thx for your support Lynette ☺️

      2. My pleasure Caterina!

      3. The Emerging Lotus

        It’s actually Cristina 😉 Caterina was my pseudonym for all legal intents and purposes but I changed my name in my book to my real first name and now use C.M. Pelle. So pleased to formally meet you!

      4. Pleased to meet you too.

      5. Please to meet you too Ruth! I love your memoir posts!

  2. The Emerging Lotus

    Follow me on Twitter @CMPelle and Instagram @C.M.Pelle03 and again thx you for your support!, it is much appreciated 😊

    1. No problem. Don’t forget to follow back. 🙂

  3. The Emerging Lotus

    Definitely! What’s your name?

    1. Lynette Davis @wewalkbyfaith88

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