For Adult Children of Parents with Narcissistic Personality Disorder

Note: There is a lot of information in this post–a must-read for ACONs and a great source of information for others. However, I do not recommend reading it in one sitting. There’s a lot to absorb.


I have received a question about the difference between narcissistic abuse parenting and normal healthy parenting. I thought this was a great question and that it should be responded to in a post, so that others could understand about mental abuse of a child with a narcissistic parent.

I have also had conversations with a few of readers lately and the issues of the effects of mentally abusive parenting on adulthood keeps coming up. There are adults who have become aware of mental abuse during their childhood and that is affecting their functionality as adults.

There are also people who are unsure as to whether they experienced any mental abuse as children but seem to having difficulty with issues such as being a perfectionist or carrying some guilt or toxic shame issues.

In order not to  offend any parents let me state the following, This post is not about parenting…

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  1. Thanks for sharing this.

    1. My pleasure. This is a very informative post.

  2. Hi Lynette, thanks so much for posting this. I didn’t make it through even the first video because it was too triggering! I very much identified with her written post, which I found very validating. Validating! As you know all too well, for those of us who grew up either validation-deprived, or validation-overwhelmed, or both (that was me-confusing as hell), to experience real self-actualized validation is a victory in itself. Peace.

  3. I don’t even have to watch the video to know that I have indeed been raised by these folks. So effed up with their own problems that they couldn’t possibly attend to my needs. And I’ve been guilty of doing it to my own kids at times. I am working hard to be better. Thank you for posting.

    1. Me too. So many of us have been messed up behind these crazy–I mean personality disordered people. We can only do better when we know better and hopefully our children will be spared some of the pain we suffered. Peace to you and remember to love yourself.

  4. Great post. Enlightening those who aren’t sure that their parent’s dysfunction isn’t their fault. 🙂

    1. Yes Debbie. In order to began healing, it’s important that ACONs understand that it’s not their fault–that it’s nothing that the did to make their parents treat them as they did, and for many people, still do.

      1. Yes Lynette. This is very important. If we can make people aware who are victims of these types of parents, perhaps they won’t have to endure most of their own lives feeling as though they’ve done something wrong. 🙂

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