5 Beliefs That Stalled My Healing

Healing from abuse really is a journey. At times it is hard work, it can be frustrating, scary, cathartic, ecstatic, rage inducing, panic triggering. It can be all those things in the span of 5 minutes even. Above all, healing from abuse is worth your while. As with any journey, sometimes the mountains seem to high, the potholes too deep and the road too long. I too have felt overwhelmed and stuck on my road to recovery. What I found is that sometimes your own beliefs about your journey, are precisely the reason you got stuck.

Here are 5 beliefs that stalled my healing and kept me from embracing my healing journey and moving from surviving to thriving.

via 5 Beliefs That Stalled My Healing from swanwaters.com.

Solution Saturday: I’m Not a Good Enough Writer


Writing a full-length book can be challenging. Here are three practical solutions to motivate you to keep writing.

Originally posted on Novelty Revisions:


We all have those days when we just don’t feel like what we’re writing is good enough. It’s a natural part of the writing process; a little bit of doubt here and there helps us remember we’re not perfect, and we still have a lot to learn.

But when that doubt stretches on too long, it can make us want to quit. Do not save changes. Delete.

Here are three solutions to slowly building up your confidence and reigniting your love for writing—which is why you started writing in the first place.

Solution 1: Read More Books

If you’re already a writer, it’s pretty likely you’re a reader, too. Reading successful authors’ work, over and over again, might have been what started this confidence drought in the first place. “They’re so good at writing! Why can’t I be that good?”

Don’t forget even your favorite authors have agents and editors…

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Little Known Black History Fact: The Delany Sisters

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Originally posted on Black America Web:

Sarah Louise “Sadie” Delany, and her sister Annie Elizabeth “Bessie” Delany, became internationally known after the Guinness Book of World Records recognized the sisters as the world’s oldest authors. The Delany Sisters were children of a former slave and used his example to forge careers in education and dentistry respectively.

Sadie Delany, the oldest of the pair, was born September 18, 1889 in Lynch’s Station, Va. Her father, Rev. Henry Beard Delany, was the first Black Episcopal Church bishop in the United States, and her mother, Nanny Logan Delany, was an educator.

Her sister, Bessie Delany, was born September 3, 1891 in Raleigh, N.C. The parents had 10 children in all. The elder Delany sister was the first Black person permitted to teach domestic science in New York high schools. Her parents were faculty members at the St. Augustine School (now University) in Raleigh, and she lived on…

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What The Heck is Author Branding?

Originally posted on Pearls Before Swine:

writing_as_professionalAh, the freedom of Self-Pub, gotta love it right? You can write as many books, covering as many angles as your full heart desires. Romance, Sci-Fi, Historical, Biography, not even the sky is the limit. But what makes your Romance novel stand out from the rest? What makes your History book the best? Self-Publishing is not like other businesses. It is not a jewelry store, a brightly lit collection of possibilities. A host of shiny things that pretty much sell themselves. It is not a restaurant, a place where menus lay open for people to see and to choose. When I walk into Burger King I know exactly what I want and how I want it and I know what I am getting. I already know what to expect from the food. But book publishing is different from other businesses because there is a lot to learn and there is…

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5 self-publishing truths few authors talk about


This reblog is certainly not the most encouraging piece I’ve read on writing and publishing. Ultimately, I think it depends on how you look at your writing career, whether you see the glass as half full or half empty. There is definitely a place for realistic expectations. Even though my memoir is not scheduled to be published until spring 2016, I’m glad that Dylan shared this dose of reality before I stepped off the curb. What do you think?

Originally posted on Suffolk Scribblings:


One of the hardest thing to watch on social media is an author, usually a debut author, getting excited about their upcoming book launch and knowing they are about to get hit around the head with a hard dose of reality.

They’ve done the right things, built up a twitter or Facebook following, blogged about the book, sent copies out for review, told all their friends about the upcoming launch, pulled together a promo video and graphic, maybe taken out some adverts. The first few days after launch are filled with excited tweets, mentions of early positive reviews and chart rankings. Then, after a few days, maybe a few weeks, the positive tweets stop and an air of desperation sets in as the reality of life as an indie author hits home.

Part of the problem is that the authors most vocal on social media are those that have already seen self-publishing…

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Writing About the Family: Family History, Secrets and Universal Truths in Creative Nonfiction

Originally posted on Reflections, Ruminations, Illuminations:

In the chapter ‘Writing the Family’ in the book ‘Tell it Slant’, editors Brenda Miller and Suzanne Paola closely examines why writing about the family is a crucial aspect of Creative Nonfiction writing and how that originates in the writer’s mind and how he/she gives shape to it in the course of the writing process. Family, they specify in the outset, is the first window of the child to the external world, “our first mirrors, our first definitions of who we are”. While the adult self assimilates into the external world with disparate individuals, cultures and experiences, the immediate family still remains at the core of his/her values/impulses, they still remain “the first objects of love, anger and loyalty”. It is thus, quite natural that writing about the family remains at the heart of memoir/creative nonfiction writing, keeping in mind so much of creative nonfiction works that revolve around the…

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Quote: A Record

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“A memoir provides a record not so much of the memoirist as the memoirist’s world.”

–Arthur Golden, Memory of a Geisha

Memoir or Revenge

Originally posted on Live to Write - Write to Live:

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No matter how ordinary, there is something quite wonderful about a life well lived, well loved and well told. That’s a great thing about memoir; interesting stories are not the exclusive domain of the powerful, rich or famous.

Writing memoir makes you vulnerable. Like all writers, you put yourself out there as an artist, for people read and critique. When you write memoir, you also put your life out there. You invite people to read about the choices you made, your mistakes and your successes. Telling your tale opens the door to admiration, condemnation and everything that lies between.

But what about the people you met along the way? While you choose to tell your story, your family, friends, colleagues and enemies didn’t. They didn’t ask you to bare their souls or share their wins and warts. So … should…

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LEGACY: What Are You Leaving for Your Future Generations?

Originally posted on ChristianBlessings:

When we hear the word “legacy”,
what thoughts come to your mind?
Do you think about your families…
and what their futures will find?
What kind of legacy are we leaving…
for our future generations?
Is it one of abundant blessings…
or of struggles and frustrations?

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Book Review | Pieces of My Mother by Melissa Cistaro


This is the book club selection for August, in the first of a series of mother-daughter memoirs. Let me know what you think in the comments. Recommendations for other mother-daughter memoirs are welcome.

Originally posted on Stories Unfolded:




“This provocative, poignant memoir of a daughter whose mother left her behind by choice begs the question: Are we destined to make the same mistakes as our parents?

One summer, Melissa Cistaro’s mother drove off without explanation Devastated, Melissa and her brothers were left to pick up the pieces, always tormented by the thought: Why did their mother abandon them?

Thirty-five years later, with children of her own, Melissa finds herself in Olympia, Washington, as her mother is dying. After decades of hiding her painful memories, she has just days to find out what happened that summer and confront the fear she could do the same to her kids. But Melissa never expects to stumble across a cache of letters her mother wrote to her but never sent, which could hold the answers she seeks.

Haunting yet ultimately uplifting, Pieces…

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