Healing from abuse really is a journey. At times it is hard work, it can be frustrating, scary, cathartic, ecstatic, rage inducing, panic triggering. It can be all those things in the span of 5 minutes even. Above all, healing from abuse is worth your while. As with any journey, sometimes the mountains seem to high, the potholes too deep and the road too long. I too have felt overwhelmed and stuck on my road to recovery. What I found is that sometimes your own beliefs about your journey, are precisely the reason you got stuck.
Here are 5 beliefs that stalled my healing and kept me from embracing my healing journey and moving from surviving to thriving.
via 5 Beliefs That Stalled My Healing from swanwaters.com.
Originally posted on Black America Web:
Sarah Louise “Sadie” Delany, and her sister Annie Elizabeth “Bessie” Delany, became internationally known after the Guinness Book of World Records recognized the sisters as the world’s oldest authors. The Delany Sisters were children of a former slave and used his example to forge careers in education and dentistry respectively.
Sadie Delany, the oldest of the pair, was born September 18, 1889 in Lynch’s Station, Va. Her father, Rev. Henry Beard Delany, was the first Black Episcopal Church bishop in the United States, and her mother, Nanny Logan Delany, was an educator.
Her sister, Bessie Delany, was born September 3, 1891 in Raleigh, N.C. The parents had 10 children in all. The elder Delany sister was the first Black person permitted to teach domestic science in New York high schools. Her parents were faculty members at the St. Augustine School (now University) in Raleigh, and she lived on…
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Originally posted on Reflections, Ruminations, Illuminations:
In the chapter ‘Writing the Family’ in the book ‘Tell it Slant’, editors Brenda Miller and Suzanne Paola closely examines why writing about the family is a crucial aspect of Creative Nonfiction writing and how that originates in the writer’s mind and how he/she gives shape to it in the course of the writing process. Family, they specify in the outset, is the first window of the child to the external world, “our first mirrors, our first definitions of who we are”. While the adult self assimilates into the external world with disparate individuals, cultures and experiences, the immediate family still remains at the core of his/her values/impulses, they still remain “the first objects of love, anger and loyalty”. It is thus, quite natural that writing about the family remains at the heart of memoir/creative nonfiction writing, keeping in mind so much of creative nonfiction works that revolve around the…
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“A memoir provides a record not so much of the memoirist as the memoirist’s world.”
–Arthur Golden, Memory of a Geisha
Originally posted on Live to Write - Write to Live:
Memoir is among my favorite work to read and write.
No matter how ordinary, there is something quite wonderful about a life well lived, well loved and well told. That’s a great thing about memoir; interesting stories are not the exclusive domain of the powerful, rich or famous.
Writing memoir makes you vulnerable. Like all writers, you put yourself out there as an artist, for people read and critique. When you write memoir, you also put your life out there. You invite people to read about the choices you made, your mistakes and your successes. Telling your tale opens the door to admiration, condemnation and everything that lies between.
But what about the people you met along the way? While you choose to tell your story, your family, friends, colleagues and enemies didn’t. They didn’t ask you to bare their souls or share their wins and warts. So … should…
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Originally posted on ChristianBlessings:
When we hear the word “legacy”,
what thoughts come to your mind?
Do you think about your families…
and what their futures will find?
What kind of legacy are we leaving…
for our future generations?
Is it one of abundant blessings…
or of struggles and frustrations?
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This is the book club selection for August, in the first of a series of mother-daughter memoirs. Let me know what you think in the comments. Recommendations for other mother-daughter memoirs are welcome.
Originally posted on Stories Unfolded:
BOOK REVIEW | PIECES OF MY MOTHER
ABOUT THE BOOK
“This provocative, poignant memoir of a daughter whose mother left her behind by choice begs the question: Are we destined to make the same mistakes as our parents?
One summer, Melissa Cistaro’s mother drove off without explanation Devastated, Melissa and her brothers were left to pick up the pieces, always tormented by the thought: Why did their mother abandon them?
Thirty-five years later, with children of her own, Melissa finds herself in Olympia, Washington, as her mother is dying. After decades of hiding her painful memories, she has just days to find out what happened that summer and confront the fear she could do the same to her kids. But Melissa never expects to stumble across a cache of letters her mother wrote to her but never sent, which could hold the answers she seeks.
Haunting yet ultimately uplifting, Pieces…
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